Lessons I hope my Kids learn

We are all either in our 30's or close to being in our 30's. By now most of us have learned a lot of life lessons. We have learned that it doesn't matter what you drive, or how much your purse costs, or how big your house is that defines you as a person. Most of us realie this. We realize that what defines us is who we are as a person. That life is not a popularity contest. No one cares if you have one friend or 1000 friends. We have learned that it is the quality of people we have in our lives not the quanity. Some of us learn this early in life and some later and sadly some not at all. Some people go through life doing anything they can to make people like them which really makes them a fake person. We all have our personalities and we all traits that other people might not like. I know that I am sarcastic ( everyone who has ever met me probably knows this), I know I am stubborn and I know I am opinionated. But the people who are my true friends and really love me for who I am also know this and they either deal with it or tell me to shut up when I am going to far. My husband loves me for who I am ( sucker!!) j/k. He will stand up for me when he needs to and he will let me know when I am wrong. He will love me on my best days and on my worst days and that is how it should be. Not just with him but with friends as well. No one is perfect. People mess up. That is how we learn. Rob and I tell our kids all the time that the choices they make can either be good ones or bad ones and if you make a bad choice than you face the consequence. We grow up thinking what is important is being the most popular kid. No one wants to be the loner. We think that if we have 50 friends than we are so cool. But that we get out of highschool and into the real world and you realize that having 50 friends who are not truthful, supportive, understanding people are not really friends. Friends are the ones that will tell you to your face when they have a issue. Will understand that sometimes you are going to disagree on things. It doesn't mean you are attacking them or them yo, it just means that you do not agree. True friends are the ones that will fight for you jst as hard as you will fight for them. Friendship shouldnt feel like a job. it shouldnt feel like you are always giving and someone is always taking. Its a 50/50. I know my kids are still young and they will go through the popularity stuff at school. And they will want the same shoes as someone or a toy because someone else has it. But I hope they learn early to really see people for who they are. To find out if they are real or fake. If they are a good person or not. If their friends would look out for them. I hope they realize that REAL friendships cant be broken by some stupid disagreement but only become stronger. That a true friend woldnt talk behind your back but to your face. That when they are older and married and have kids a true friend will love their kids as much as they do. I know I have friends like this. I also know that I had friends who were not like this and I no longer speak to them. In the end I have my amazing husband, I have 3 beautful, adorable, smart, athletic, creative, wonderful kids. And I have the friends that would jump in front of a bus for me just like I would for them. I feel sad for the people who are adults who havent learned this yet and I pray that my kids will learn these lessons before someone really hurts them or lets them down.