Yes I do have the ability to be a SAHM which is awesome but it is not as glamours as people think it is. I love my kids but there are days that they DRIVE.ME.INSANE!!!!And its not like I can just leave. Yes, we go to lifetime so I can get 2 hours to myself, but that has to be well timed. I have to go early enough to make sure that we get home in time for lunch and naps, or go even earlier if we have errands to run.
My house is NEVER clean. Sure I clean it but there are always toys laying around, or dishes that need to be put away, or laundry that needs to be washed. I can literally clean my house all day and by 5 pm it will be messy again...why??? Because my kids are with me and they want to play and kids are dirty and sticky little things.
Errands...ahh theres another fun aspect of being a SAHM. We run errands all the time. Grocery shopping takes double the time because I have 3 kids with me. This also has to be timed out well. I don't want to pack up 3 kids and take them to the store for just 2 gallons of milk. Why you ask? Because for any normal person this would be a 5 minute trip into the store. For me and the kids this would be at least a 20 minute trip with at least 500 questions. SO I wait and plan out store trips when I need more than a few things.
As for laundry...well we always have some. No matter what there is always something that needs to be washed, dried or put away. It never ends. And I don't mind doing laundry but once again putting it away has to be well planned. If I don't watch Addie like a hawk she is in the fridge or freezer pulling out food...yes we have tried the lock..childed proof my ass! So to be able to put laundry away she either has to be sleeping or in her booster eating. And I have to make sure the boys are getting along otherwise I play referee during the time and instead of it taking 10-15 minutes to put laundry away it has now turned into a 45 minute task.
Cleaning isn't as bad. The boys usually help me but we also have the demolisher aka Addie who likes to just pull everything out that you are putting away. Thank god the girl loves her books so at least we can divert her a little.
As for crabby days...like I said before there is no where to hide from the kids. I never go to the bathroom without someone walking in or pounding on the door. Apparently my kids think this is a group activity. If I have to shower and I forget to lock the door Zach will be naked and in the shower before you can blink...the kid loves water.
Now I am not saying it is all bad. I love being home with the kids. I love being able to spend our days at a park, zoo, pool etc...but I just want all you moms out there who think being at SAHM means your house will always be clean, kids will be perfect, laundry put away, and errands a breeze...think again. It IS a job...just one we get paid for in hugs and kisses!
I have to say, a lot of this is not limited to SAHMs! Colin gets into e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g. Our problem is dishes always pile up because you can't load the dishwasher with him around or he will try to go after everything you put in there, and if you put the baby gate up, he'll scream and throw toys over until you pay attention to him. You can't load OR unload dishes when he is asleep because it wakes him up. I swear I am going to start buying paper plates and plasticware.
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