working mom or sahm mom???

I feel like there is always a debate about which is harder. Bring a working mom or a SAHM. And I do not understand why...aren't both hard?I have done both. I have worked 50 hours a week while my kids were in daycare and I have been home all day with my kids. There are pros and cons to both, in my opinion, but they are both hard.Its almost like being pulled in 2 different directions.
1. When you work you want to be spending time with your child/ren, and when you stay home you want just 5 minutes to yourself

2. At work you talk to adults and wait till you can get home and talk to your kids and when you stay home you wish you could have a conversation with a adult...especially one without being interrupted

3. You commute to and from work is quiet yet you miss hearing your kids talk or sing, and when you stay home you wish you could have just one quiet car ride. Sometimes you even take the long way home to get the extra 5 minutes of a quiet car when the kids fall asleep in it.

4. When you work you love weekends because you can spend time with the kids and do fun activities. When you stay home you see weekends as a break because your spouse is there to help and you don't have to do everything

5.You wear dressy clothes to work, well unless you coach gymnastics, and you wish you could be in comfy pants and a hoodie. When you stay home you wear comfy pants and a hoodie and wish you could put on nicer clothes. But you don't because you know by the end of the day you will be covered in paint, playdoh, food and anything else that kids have put on you

I could go on and on but I think everyone gets the point. The grass is always greener on the other side. Both sides are hard. But in the end we are all just trying to be the best parents we can for our kids. We might lose our patience sometimes, and we might get tired and frustrated but in the end we all have the same goal for our kids. And no matter if you work, stay home, or work part time like I do its all hard.