Marriage

I'm going to let you in on a secret. No marriage is perfect!!! I know big surprise huh!!! It takes work to build a good marriage. You are NOT always going to agree on things, but you might be able to find a compromise. You are NOT always going to like a decision that the other person makes, but you learn to pick your battles wisely. You are NOT going to have the same ideas on raising your kids, but you figure out the best ones and go from there. You are NOT always going to agree on how to spend your money, but you figure out what the best long term idea is.
These are just a few things that happen in a marriage. Rob and I were together for 8 years before we got married and we still have disagreements about things. But we also have open communication with each other and always have. He knew when I was 18 what my thoughts on family and kids were and vise versa. We know that he is better at fiances so he handles them. I have more experience with kids so he lets me make many decisions when it comes to the kids. It works for us. But just because our marriage works this way doesn't mean other peoples will.
I hate when people say they want to be like some couple they know. No 2 couples are alike. And yes all of them have their problems. Whether they do not know how to have adult conversations with each other about things that matter. Or they fight all the time. Or their is cheating. Or a controlling spouse. Etc... people have issues. I would love to say our marriage will last forever, but lets be honest no one can predict the future. There are couples that stay married for 60 years, couples that divorce after 40 years, couples that divorce after 3 years....you never know. But we do know that we will always fight for our relationship no matter what. We have been through so much together and had been before we got married that I can not imagine anything rattling us now, but who knows.
I look at other peoples relationships, and other peoples spouses and I think how lucky I am to have Rob and to have the relationship that we do have. We are excited to grow old together, and watch our children grow up and have their own families. But I know it wouldn't always be easy. I know their will be disagreements down the road, but I know that we can handle them and come out stronger on the other side. I just hope the same for all of our friends who are married or soon will be.